Monday, March 20, 2006

Faith Interrupted

 
   When death, serious illness, and news of crumbling relationships resonate in my ears, my complete and unyielding faith in the warm hand of the Almighty becomes interrupted.  Once again, I turn and look for a clue...could there even be one? Why are our hearts allowed to fall to the ground and shatter as if they were made of fine porcelain. Can the Creator of worlds and time be so occupied and  removed from us?   And so I muse......
 
    As  my sons were growing up, they looked up to me for all sorts of answers, especially to their homework assignments!  When my youngest was 12, he saw me as a natural wealth of quick information.
    One night he came to me and said in a half whine..."Dad, I need help with my math homework...I really don't understand the problems."  ..... I always enjoyed being engaged and challenged...after all, eighth grade math was my calling!  "Hmmm...O.K.....here we go....if x+4 =8, we'll move the x to this side, subtract that side...."  and to his relief, I unraveled this dark mystery for him . He was never amazed at my swift calculations, after all, I was Dad, I was supposed to know!
    Imagine my amazement when he came home from school the next day and waved the homework assignment in my face..."Look Dad, an "F"....all of YOUR answers were wrong! I can't believe it Dad...an "F"....!!
    My mouth fell to the open position and stayed frozen that way. Aside from the disbelief that I had incorrectly answered every question, was the fact that I let my son down..way down!  After rereading the questions that were asked, I understood that my approach to his assignment was all wrong, but that did not matter now. I asked him how much this assignment meant to the grade for the period. "Well, I was running a B-, but with this F, I'll be lucky to get a "C" for a grade.Now what do you suggest?"
   I had never let my son down like I had at that moment. There was no fixing this, I couldn't explain to the teacher that Dad was doing his sons homework and failed to properly follow instructions. I just looked at my son and explained that he would now need to work extrahard,. He would need to be  better prepared for tests and do some extra credit work.  "You mean I have to do all that extra hard work because you couldn't do my homework right?"
 
     A parent is supposed to have the answers, it is the  problem solver, the parent is supposed to make the hurt go away...it is  not supposed to be the source of it.
 
    The world spins on an axis which we have no control over. The sun rises and sets each day keeping things on this planet in perfect running order. We trust this amazing feat of mechanical awesomeness is in good hands. So when our lives are pulled away from us like a rug being pulled from beneath out feet, we are plunged into a deeper depth of darkness, as if our parent has abandoned us....as if our parent gave us all the wrong answers on a homework assignment!
 
  It now becomes our job, to work harder. we must now pull ourselves together.
 
It is now time to believe, hope and trust...more than ever before.
 
To all my friends here in J-land who have recently lost loved ones, to those who have loved ones battling a serious or life threatening illness, to those struggling in family matters, to all of those who face face despair as if it were a permanent fixture in their day.....The Parent does not have all the answers, and to believe so only allows for a faith interrupted.
 
My prayers of a return and restoration to a peaceful soul~~~Marc

16 comments:

sdoscher458 said...

This was a lovely entry Marc thank you...Sandi

robinngabster said...

Wonderfully said Marc....

samnsmile5 said...

Reading this tonight helped with some of the pain I feel for those that are struggling and the hurt I have for them.
Thank You!
Michele

ally123130585918 said...

Words of wisdom Marc ~ wonderfully written ~ Ally

eml625 said...

Your the sweetest man......

Ellen

mutualaide said...

You are so thoughtful and kind.  Lovely post.  Thank you.

philadlfiagrl said...

ur words are very touching and thought provoking as usual...

thanks for all ur kind words...faith crushed is more like it...

lizzzzzzzzzza

http://journals.aol.com/philadlfiagrl/lizaslife

tschamberland said...

Well said.  I believe that to show one's children that even parents make mistakes is important.  Who better to shatter the illusions early on?  Seriously though, my husband and I have never allowed the boys to carry any illusions about our parenting abilites that would leave them reeling when the curtain falls down.  To learn we are all human and make errors, take missteps, is so important in becoming a compassionate and functioning adult.

Again, well said, Marc! :)

Tammy
http://lifeliveitormissout.blogspot.com

lifes2odd said...

Beautiful entry Marc :-)

justaname4me2 said...

Marc,
Your entry struck a certain cord within me I simply cannot place into words. The story you wrote of with your son, has taught me a lesson I have no doubt will effect my own daughters. I tell my daughters a story each night, or read a poem, or part of a book....every single night, and with your entry, I have my words for this evening.
Thank you,
Rebecca

delela1 said...

Your passion for humanity, and unending compassion bring depth to often shallow shores.  Thank you, kind soul.

stormypassionzz said...

Leave it to a man to NOT read directions!  LOL   Just trying to make you smile.  Great entry and so true.  Our children need to learn we make mistakes and sometimes we don't have the answers...but together....we might find options to help us overcome the sad or hard times.   Keep smiling....I am!  :)

Cindy

randlprysock said...

Yes, sometimes our faith gets tossed around and pretty beat up.  I think mostly this happens to me when I am missing the point entirely and God is trying to wake me up or shake me up.  Thank you for writing such a beautiful entry.  
Lisa

http://journals.aol.com/randlprysock/AdventuresFromFlorida/

onemoretina said...

    So beautifully stated, Marc ... and so true.  There are many folks in this journaling community who are dealing with tough situations these days, and they must feel, at times, as though they have been abandoned.  My prayer is that they will rely on their faith, as well as the love and concern of their family and friends ... and know that there is still hope, and a reason to believe ... and better days ahead.  Thanks for a lovely entry, and a valuable one.  Tina  

libragem007 said...

"The Parent does not have all the answers, and to believe so only allows for a faith interrupted."

Thank you marc.
Gem :-)

inafrnz247 said...

Marc,
 I happened upon this entry this morning... I can appreciate everything you've said here, and the ending inparticular is helping me right at this very moment.  Thank you for the reminder that it truly is up to me to be stronger.  Thank you, Michelle